Why You Can’t Relax—And How to Teach Your Nervous System That It’s Safe
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**Below is the podcast turned into a blog article for easy reading.
The Moment Rest Felt Unsafe
The house was finally quiet. No one was making demands of me. No meltdowns. My son was happy a...
Rupture Isn’t Failure: It’s the Path to Healing
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**Below is the podcast turned into a blog article for easy reading.
Rupture Isn’t Failure: It’s the Path to Healing
When a Hard Day Lingers
I woke up this morning with a heavy feeling in m...
What Your Nervous System Needs When Your Child Is Triggering You
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What Your Nervous System Needs When Your Child Is Triggering You
You try to stay calm.
Your child is swearing, may...
You Are Not Your Activation: Becoming the Awareness Behind Your Mind and Body
If you want to listen to a discussion of this blog article, then you can listen on The Regulated Mother Podcast, by Afshan Tafler on Apple or Spotify
A Moment That Changed Everything
I remember a time when my son and I were caught in a painful cycle—one that seemed impossible to break. Every time ...
Wired for Connection: How a Mother’s Nervous System is Designed to Feel Her Child
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It was a usual day in our household a few years back. I would wake up with barely enough time to meet my own basic needs before my son needed me. He’...
Why I Froze: Understanding the Fear, Rage, and Burnout Cycle in Parenting My High-Needs Child
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Content note: This article contains a story that touches on suicidal thoughts during a moment of emotional collapse. If you're in a vulnerable state,...
When Courage Emerges: A Story of Healing, Co-Regulation, and Hope
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Staying with the Good
Today, I feel good.
I’m walking in the forest—which is very regulating for me—and I’m allowing myself to stay with this good ...
When Gratitude Feels Out of Reach: A Mother’s Day Reflection
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I Want to Feel Grateful... But How?
I want to feel grateful for being a mother. I really do. But how?
Every Mother’s Day, I feel this pressure to t...
Why do I feel like I’m failing as a parent when I can’t control my child’s behavior?
I hated going to toy stores after this experience. My son and I were at a toy store together one time, and he was playing with Thomas the train on the train tracks table. He was having fun, until another kid came along and wanted to play too. My son screamed at him and chucked a train at him. Th...
Why trying to think differently of your child doesn’t work in heated moments and what works better
When my son first began to try to control me, like when I can go to the bathroom, my nervous system had a really hard time with this. I have always had a strong visceral reaction to being controlled, but I really tried to contain this because he’s Autistic and PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), a...
