The Regulation Starter
Start feeling like yourself again, even when you're exhausted and running on empty.
- For the parent who holds it all together, but feels numb and exhausted underneath, and may be burning out
- For the parent who only notices the anger once it's already exploded
Eight guided videos where I walk you through the first skills your body needs: sensing what state you're in, finding what safe feels like again, and staying with your stress instead of numbing it or exploding.
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MELTDOWNS IN OUR HOME WENT FROM
5 hours a day to about 30 minutes, once a week
What changed it for me started here: getting to know my early cues, and practicing the felt sense of safety, over and over, until my body recognized it in the heated moments, not just my mind.
"I went from feeling bewildered and burnt out to competent and curious. This should be part of a user's manual for being human."
Lindsey, The Regulation Rebuild
Notice yourself in this?
You're functioning and doing all the things, but you feel numb underneath.
WHAT YOU PRACTICE
Telling numbness or freeze apart from calm, through six cues: your body, breath, thoughts, emotions, energy and behavior. Notice Your Nervous System States video
Even when you finally get a break, your body can't rest.
WHAT YOU PRACTICE
Feeling what safe is like in your body again, so it has somewhere to come back to. Meet Your Safety State video
You feel like you've lost yourself, and you can't remember the last time you felt joy.
WHAT YOU PRACTICE
Connecting to your Inner Resource, the part of you that gets covered over in survival mode, where your aliveness can start to come back. Meet Your Safety State video
You push it all down to stay calm, and end up feeling like a zombie.
WHAT YOU PRACTICE
Staying with your anger or fear and safety at the same time, instead of numbing it or exploding. Meet and Regulate Your Triggered State video
The anger builds before you notice it, and you only catch it once you've already blown up.
WHAT YOU PRACTICE
Catching the earlier signs in your breath, muscles and energy, while you still have more choice. Notice Your Nervous System States video
You try to breathe and stay calm, and it just doesn't work.
WHAT YOU PRACTICE
A simple way back to safety you can use anytime, and the way of breathing that actually helps your body settle. The Safety Practice and The Breathing Tool videos
Why it starts here
When you've been in survival mode for a long time, your brain often turns down the feeling in your body to get you through. And it's very hard to regulate a state you can't sense, because you may not notice you're in it until it has already taken over.
In burnout, your body often drops into freeze or shutdown, because your nervous system has stopped sensing safety. It gets hard to feel what's happening inside you, and you may think you're calm, or that this is just who you are now.
So the first step is learning to sense your state again, and to know what safe feels like, so you know what you're coming back to.
Yes! I want The Regulation Starter for $27What can change when you practice this
You notice your state at the earliest signs of being triggered, instead of being blindsided once your reaction is already at full throttle.
You know what safety feels like in your own body again, so it's a felt memory you can come back to, not just an idea.
You have a simple tool to come back to safety, whatever state you're in, instead of freezing and not knowing what to do.
You understand why breathing techniques didn't work for you before, and how to use one that can help your body settle.
What's inside
- Start Here: a quick welcome and what to do first.
- The Place I Always Begin: my own story of losing touch with safety completely, and why we start here.
- Notice Your Nervous System States: the three main states and three blended states, including freeze, and how to recognize each one.
- Meet Your Safety State: a guided practice to feel safety in your body and meet your Inner Resource.
- The Safety Practice: a simple, repeatable way back to safety, from any state.
- Meet and Regulate Your Triggered State: gently touch a real trigger, and practice holding activation and safety at the same time.
- The Breathing Tool That Actually Works: why breathing may not have worked for you before, and the way that can help.
- Where This Leads: how these skills deepen, and what to do next.
Bonus: the Nervous System States Map, a one-page guide to which state you're in.
MEET YOUR GUIDE
I'm Afshan Tafler โ a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based Nervous System Resilience coach, and host of The Regulated Parent podcast.
It took me six years of trusting this work before I saw it truly change things โ for me, and for my son. He still carries real challenges, but he's mostly happy now, getting back out into the world. And I have the capacity to feel joy in this life again, fully, in a way I couldn't for a long time.
I've helped hundreds of parents of high-needs, hypersensitive, PDA, autistic, and ADHD kids move from survival mode to capacity โ through my signature course, The Regulation Rebuild, and everything I teach here.
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What parents say about Afshan's teaching
"Afshan has created a trail guide for those of us who are lost in the thickets of parenting to compassionately guide us back to sanity."
D.G.
"I thought I needed to stay perfectly calm to be a good parent... they could immediately sense the 'fake calm.'"
Aly
"My life hasn't gotten easier, but I think I'm slowly getting the support I need to heal and function better within the life I have."
Christi
START TODAY
The Regulation Starter
8 guided videos, plus the Nervous System States Map
For now
$27
Going up to $47 soon
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I'm exhausted. I don't have time for another course.
Do I need to already be good at feeling into my body?
What if I start a practice already activated?
Will this make my child's meltdowns stop?
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You Don't Have to Be a Perfect Parent. You Can Become One Who Feels Safe Enough, Even in the Hard Moments With Your Child.
You already are the parent who looks for help instead of giving up.
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