Daring greatly…Choosing Courage
“I want to be in the arena. I want to be brave with my life. And when we make the choice to dare greatly, we sign up to get our asses kicked. We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.” Brené Brown
Parts of me never wanted to be in the arena. But the Universe had other plans. My Soul had other plans. Turns out my mission is to be in the arena, living a life of daring greatly with my highly reactive, hypersensitive, high needs child. Not only so that I could learn, grow and help myself and my child to thrive amongst all the challenges, but also so I could then serve and guide other mothers who are struggling to thrive with their hypersensitive kiddos.
There is no one in the world that will challenge you more than your child.
There is no one in the world you will love more and learn more from you than your child.
And, there is no greater job in the world than to step up and dare greatly to transform into a better you in the face of your child.
From diagnosis to helpless
Diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome/ME, Fibromyalgia, Thyroid Disorder, Adrenal Fatigue and later Lyme Disease, I felt like my illness owned me and I couldn’t get out from under it.
It took away my zest for life and left me feeling hopeless, alone, and with a serious hit to my self-esteem.
I tried everything to get better - I changed my diet, took many supplements, did many detox regimens and holistic treatments.
But nothing worked.
The unfulfilled years of parenting
Meanwhile, no one could have prepared me for the rough start of parenting.
From a baby who barely ate, slept and deemed “failure to thrive” to a growing child struggling with Anxiety, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Oppositional Defiance, Sensory Processing disorder and Autism…I was challenged to the extreme.
Often hand-cuffed by the fear of his health and future, I spent much time in hyper vigilance trying to fix my child.
Stuck in reactive anger patterns, I secretly saw my child as an “imperfection” that threatened the safety net of perfection I had built around me.
I was failing as a parent, and I was blaming my child for it.
The discovery that changed everything
As I went down the path of trying to understand what it truly means to have great health and achieve the inner peace I desperately wanted, I discovered a wise, best-selling author, Wayne Dyer who helped me realize that the way we perceive ourselves and our life is what causes stress in our bodies and unhappiness in our minds.
Trying to change the things around me (my child, my husband, my food, my supplements) was just not working to change my health or my parenting frustrations.
I needed to find a way to embody this powerful way of being…and the realization that I could empower myself to change how I perceived myself, and the world around me.
I could create the way I wanted to feel about myself, my child, and my life!
I had this power!
From programmed to AUTHENTICITY
So, I embarked upon this path of mind-body-soul healing, and learned that the mind and body are indeed connected, and our thoughts, beliefs and emotions greatly influence our physical health.
I became more aware of the programmed belief systems I was operating under.
Beliefs such as:
“I must do what others expect of me”
(in order to be loved),
“I must help others at the expense of myself”
(in order to be worthy), and
“I must hide my emotions as they are not acceptable”
(in order to be accepted and stay connected to others).
Ultimately, I had to un-learn my programmed, limiting ways of being that were causing me to be in a state of chronic stress, affecting both my health and my ability to have a calm, connected relationship with my child.
Going down this path of healing took me - for the first time in my life - to my true Authentic Self...this part of me from which I could naturally draw power and life force energy to thrive!
Changing my relationship with myself
Through my healing journey, I also realized the crucial importance of how I was in relationship with myself.
I could not accept my emotions or acknowledge my true needs.
I was hard on myself, with a wicked inner critic that shamed me for anything I did that was not in line with perfection.
I had to learn how to develop self-compassion and love and accept all parts of me – the dark and the light - so that my body could feel safe enough to heal.
I had to develop a more compassionate, supportive and caring relationship with myself, where I could be with my emotions and nurture myself back into greater health, inner peace and a deeper connection with myself and the people I loved most.
The path to my greatest health and most connected relationships
The deeper I went into healing my emotional health, the more my body responded with vitality and energy for life.
The more connected and accepting I became of myself, the more I was able to connect with and accept my strong-willed child, creating the loving, calm relationship I always wanted for us, and the inner peace I craved for myself.
The more I trusted in the Universe, and developed faith in the growth experience of this life, the more I saw the experience of my illness and my relationship with my son as a gift.
A gift that would teach me how to become my greatest and most purposeful self!
As a result my body healed, and my relationship with my son healed.
Find your power
Whether you want to heal your chronic health challenge or have a more peaceful parenting experience, it all starts with connecting to who you truly are and letting go of the unconscious, programmed ways of being that are keeping you stuck in a state of stress, ill health and disconnected relationships.
I know this, because I am living proof that when you change what’s on the inside, you change your experience of life, and from here your health and relationships thrive.
This is your POWER.
As an expert in emotional health with multiple certifications and trainings in mind-body health and mental-emotional stress, I can help you find your power to reprogram your mind, body and relationships for optimal health and deep, peaceful connection with your kids.
Free Offerings To Get You On Your Path To Transform Your Emotional Health
FREE 3-VIDEO MINI-COURSE: FROM EMOTIONAL STRESS TO OPTIMAL HEALTH (FOR CHRONIC ILLNESS)
FREE EBOOK: HOW TO BREAK FREE FROM CHRONIC ILLNESS
FREE WEBINAR: 7 STEPS TO TRANSFORMING ANGER – THE CONSCIOUS WAY (FOR PARENTS)
I believe in your ability to heal any health or parenting challenge in your life!
Now it’s time for you to start believing in yourself.
Book a free 30 minute call with me today!Please email me at [email protected] to book a free consultation
What Clients Are Saying
The way that Afshan has helped me to get out of my own way has been nothing less than incredible. I'm pretty uptight and keep-things-to-myself still, and Afshan was able to really gain my trust -- fast. I could tell that she'd walked the walk and was so dedicated to helping others be more free from the emotional burdens that hold us back. I loved it that coaching sessions with her never added complexity or "layers" of further problems to weigh me down. She was the compassionate, clear guide to help me more fully relate to myself in ways that integrated (previously stressed-out) parts of my experience into the whole of who I am. We could dig deep without coming anywhere at all near the risk of emotional overwhelm and end sessions with new lightness and joy. I was especially touched by how above-and-beyond committed and utterly thorough she was in meeting me where I am and seeing me through the process. After just two sessions, I could write her saying, "I cannot even quite imagine why what used to fill me with such dread and sinking feeling could have been so stressful before!"
Afshan is a gifted coach. Let me tell you why I say that. I am a person who has had a strong inner critic all my life. It’s particularly loud right now as I set up my own business and I really needed to find a way to tame it so that I can be productive and focused. Afshan and I did a session where we explored where it was coming from, and she got the “real me” to talk to this other voice inside of me. I had a breakthrough experience where at some point, I came to the realization that my inner critic is like a young, inexperienced, and scared version of myself who is fearful of taking risks. The real me is a person who loves to try new things and expand my knowledge and experience continuously, so you can see why we are at odds. I suddenly had an overwhelming feeling of two leaden doors in my chest burst open and let an intense light flood in. It was something I have never experienced before, and possibly never will again. My mind was blown at this moment. Now I can take that younger version of myself on my adventures with me and can tell her that she will be OK, she has me looking after her and I won’t let anything scary happen to her.
Coaching with Afshan helped me to achieve my goal step by step. I am really happy that I found her service, and it helped me a lot. I have become brave compared to my old self. I take actions towards my plan instead of worry about all the possible outcomes. Afshan is such an inspiring person who speaks softly, but her words are powerful. It shapes the way I think about things. I like how she understands me so well, even if a lot of the time I don’t understand myself. She can see what people want from their hearts.
More About Me
As an expert in emotional health for both chronic illness and parenting, I have been featured in multiple parenting summits and radio shows talking about the importance of prioritizing emotional health for both physical health and connected, trusting relationships with your kids.
I have also worked with other conscious-minded, mind-body health oriented organizations providing content on emotional health and conscious parenting.
Honours Bachelor of Science (H.BSc.) degree
with majors in Biology and Psychology.
Internal Family Systems Practitioner Level 2
A form of psychotherapy developed by Richard Schwartz that is compassionate, inclusive, spiritual, powerfully healing and deeply respectful of our inner life and the many “parts” of our personalities.
Accredited Certified EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Practitioner
Certified Practitioner with EFTi. An Energy Psychology method proven to reduce stress and improve emotional health.
Certified Adler Trained Coach
Professional coaching certification, viewing the individual as a whole person with an integrated mind-body approach.
Compassionate Inquiry Certificate (Attendance)
A psychotherapeutic method that helps clients liberate themselves from the unconscious dynamics that run their lives.
Lifestyle Prescriptions Health Coach Certification Candidate
An Energy Psychology based body-mind-social root cause approach to understanding illness and helping the body to self-heal.
Certified Holistic Health Coach
with the Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN), New York.
Certified in the Body-Centered Coaching Method
A whole-person-centered approach that combines mindfulness with access to the body’s wisdom.
Tapping out of Trauma Certificate
A study of the neurobiological effects of trauma on the body and using EFT “Tapping” to release trauma so that the body/mind can self-heal.