How A “Sad Emotional Diet” Affects You And Your Family’s Health
How to Uplevel your Mindful Parenting
Have you ever found yourself saying to your child or spouse “calm down” or “you’re fine” when they are having an emotional moment? If so, you’re not the only one.
What makes us say these kinds of “shutting down” statements in the face of emotional turmoil? The reality is that most of us have been conditioned to shun emotions or ignore them in the hopes that they will go away and “everything will be fine” once again. This emotional way of being has been referred to as the “Sad Emotional Diet” consumed by most of the population. But the truth is that this way of reacting to others and our own emotions are quite detrimental to our health and well being as an individual, for a child and for a family system.
The Connection Between Parenting & Your Health
“Why are you doing that?!! What’s wrong with you?!! Why can’t you just listen to me?!!! Why do you have to always do this??!!” I screamed at my son one day (actually, one of many days).
How many times have you found yourself screaming at your child or getting really angry at him, only to later feel that awful feeling of shame and guilt wash over you, making you want to crawl into a hole and berate yourself?
How many times have you found yourself saying to your kids “Why are you doing that? What’s wrong with you? What were you thinking?!”
And for those who don’t have kids…just hang on here because this has to do with you too (I will show you what I mean in a bit, so read on).
You’re probably wondering what parenting has to do with your current state of health? The answer is, likely, a lot.